—Hilton Als (via.)
… a woman who was not conventionally pretty, who had acne and an intermittent weight problem and hair that stuck out, could not only invent her own beauty (just as she invented her wonderful sleazofreak costumes) out of sheer energy, soul, sweetness, arrogance, and a sense of humor, but have that beauty be appreciated.
My friend, Madelyn,
she has this theory
that what makes a relationship special
is the choice to see one another
and be in that relationship.
To overcome the entropy of
not hanging out
is what gives a relationship
I don’t know if I believe this
but I think about it sometimes.
I mean, on the other hand
there’s something special
"I like you so much
I want to live around you
and be with you all the time.”
I think it would be interesting
to pick one person.
What fascinates me is
when people are like,
"I’m going to move
across the country for you.”
"I’m not going to take this job
because I want to live in the same city as you.”
How could you structure
so much of your life
around one person?
Maybe I just haven’t met the right person,
but I think you shouldn’t be
in a serious relationship until
just because you need to grow
It doesn’t make sense why it would be,
but it seems like knowing another person,
caring about other people,
is the point of everything.
But I feel like it can also be nice
to learn something about yourself
as you learn about other people.
I don’t know.
I haven’t sorted out my feelings on it.